From homeless single father to motivational speaker, author and life coach
Cheyenne Bostock believes that hardships in life often shine a light on our intended purpose. His own path to finding his passion as a motivational speaker, author and life coach is rooted in experiences from his past that could easily have spiraled into a tale of despair.
In 2011, he was a jobless single father, living in a homeless shelter after walking away from a toxic relationship. He was applying for job after job with no success, even though he had a bachelor’s degree in business management. He was at a low point.
What happened next was done by conscious effort. Some may call it an epiphany or a wake-up call. Bostock described it as a complete mental shift and a necessary attitude adjustment. As he sat in the homeless shelter, feeling defeated, Bostock recalls asking himself, “What are you doing in this homeless shelter? What are you doing here on this earth?”
He attributes the shift in mindset to his faith, and recalls that it became suddenly clear to him that his purpose was to help other people. Bostock applied for a volunteer position at a nearby non-profit organization, but they didn’t want him to volunteer. One look at his resume and they immediately extended him a job offer.
While working at the non-profit and cultivating a mentor-type relationship with his contacts there, Bostock realized that his own approach to his circumstances could be useful to others who were looking to make the same changes. He took to social media to reach out to people seeking advice on relationships, life and business.
The response was so great that he began email consulting, providing guidance to individuals based on their circumstances. That led to the creation of a blog, and eventually people began to ask Bostock if he had a book. After authoring the first of four books, he was asked to participate in media spots for television, magazines and newspapers.
It wasn’t long before Bostock starting hosting self-help and life coaching events and serve as the featured speaker. At that point, Bostock knew he wanted to take his education to the next level. In addition to what he learned through his own experiences, he knew he could offer even more if he aligned his education with his desire to help others.
“I wanted to understand human behavior and help people navigate this crazy world,” he said.
Bostock had a hectic schedule with his budding life-coaching career and also as the single father of a son. The traditional brick-and-mortar college experience wasn’t likely to work for him. He found the master’s degree in Industrial-Organizational Psychology at University of Phoenix, and it was a good fit. He completed his master’s degree in November 2019, something Bostock never would have imagined as a younger man.
“When I got my undergrad in business management, I told myself I would never go back to school,” he said. “To not only enroll in school but to finish and receive a master’s degree makes me very proud to be able to have that as a part of my legacy.”
In his role as life coach, Bostock said he guides others to clearly identify their end goal. Once that clarity exists, strategic plans can be developed and then action can take place. Taking these steps often helps people see that something that seems insurmountable is actually possible, and he serves as an accountability partner throughout the process.
“I help them unwrap and unravel all of the chaos and bring it together to create something that is meaningful and purposeful,” Bostock said.
One commonality Bostock sees is people latching onto excuses, which in reality is fear of both failure and success, particularly for those who have come from traumatic or unstable circumstances. Bostock understands these fears because he went through them himself, but he tries to help others see they can move past the fear by taking deliberate action.
“People need to know that it doesn’t matter if you didn’t have mentors, if you didn’t have a father, if you didn’t have an education, if you didn’t have money,” he said. “Whatever it is, you can overcome it.”
By parceling out your overall goal into a plan, Bostock said you can accomplish bits at a time that will lead to success of your overall goal. For instance, if you dream of being an entrepreneur but you don’t have a business in place yet, start by building a website or making use of social media to start talking about your ideas. Just move forward, he said.
“Get clear, get focused, and get started.”