How is service a pathway to communication and collaboration?
When you’re a soldier, you always have the mindset that, if a problem is presented to you, you automatically come up with a solution.
Being a life coach, however, allows you to step back and put some ownership on the person who is actually having the problem. You may come up with a solution to that problem, but the person who has the problem has to really buy in [on the solution].
So, you listen to the person and then, together, you all talk and eventually … you can get that person to commit to a time frame and walk that problem through.
By always looking ahead, you made some of your most important life decisions, including joining the military and earning two master’s degrees. How do you stay focused on the future?
At one point, I was actually cutting orders. Cutting orders means that I was responsible for transferring [soldiers] to the units that they were going to deploy. I would see soldiers who had to get ready in three days, four days, seven days to leave their family for a year.
I looked at my education, and I thought, “If I were deployed overseas for a year and got injured, that could really change my career.”
You gotta be able to sustain yourself. So, what that taught me is that tomorrow’s not promised. You better get what you can get when you can get it. Because one instance could change the whole trajectory of your career.
You’ve had multiple careers over your lifetime. You wrote a book. You advocate and you coach. What’s next?
I don’t think I could sit down!
I did a career-day at a local middle school last month, and it was amazing. I took my vision board, and we talked about the vision board, and I challenged each student to create a vision board, because they really need to be looking at the next three or five years.
I just wanted to really be able to inspire, so maybe public speaking or mentoring is next for me.