Another advantage of relearning math (and learning it better) is the way it can impact future generations.
“We have a lot of parents who are just feeling so defeated because they can’t help their kids with Common Core, and Common Core is really great conceptually,” Kelly says. “It teaches students to do the things that we failed to do ourselves. But the problem is that we didn’t go back to triage ourselves. … So, we have a generation of traumatized people with respect to math and science. We have to break that cycle for our kids. We have to repair it ourselves.”
The first step is what Kelly calls “reparenting” yourself.
This can look different ways, but the idea is to reframe your perspective on math and learning. So, if you wouldn’t tolerate your child calling himself or herself stupid, don’t belittle your own abilities.
If you wouldn’t let your child Google an answer to a math problem simply to be done with it, don’t let yourself do it.
And, if you want to encourage curiosity and a love of learning in your child, begin to foster that in yourself — even if that means reflecting on the sometimes uncomfortable reasons why you have negative feelings about math or school in general.
After all, just because you experienced something negatively before doesn’t mean it has to happen again.